The stay at home mom woes

I don’t know how it’s possible to be around someone 24 hours a day, besides the occasional break, and at the same time feel this utter loneliness. That’s how I have been feeling lately being a stay at home mom. I love my daughter and she is wild and keeps me on my toes, but I cant help but feel this strange emptiness. I’m not sure if its because I don’t get out nearly enough as I should, or that I have a handful of friends and family. Or maybe I crave some alone time that 90 minutes of yoga wont fulfil. Its causing me to go in and out of depression.

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I recently was given the opportunity to buy this local dog grooming business from my friend who is moving away, and sadly I had to turn it down. This is my dream, I have always wanted my own business, I love my career and I’m very good at it. The problem is, I have trust issues with strangers watching my baby, and I don’t have family to depend on that will watch Audree while I run a full time business. I never wanted to be a stay at home mom forever. This business offer is just bad timing, and I couldn’t feel any more terrible than I already do about having to turn it down. Audree is just too young and still breastfeeding. Hopefully in the future when shes older that opportunity will come back my way and I will JUMP for joy!

I think I just need to find ways to get back to being the mom who loves staying at home.. Audree is my everything and deserves a well balanced, happy,  fully attentive mother. Not one who is so down on herself lately that constantly complains about the littliest things. If anyone has any advice please comment below 🙂

XOXO, Paige

 

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12 thoughts on “The stay at home mom woes

  1. So glad I found your blog! I can totally relate. I have a 10.5 month old and I battle with loneliness sometimes. I don’t get out enough and I think that does have something to do with it. I pray a whole lot and try to at least get out and get some fresh air even if I just walk down my driveway! You are doing a great job!

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    1. Aww thank you for reading!! I’m glad we found each other ! I definitely believe getting outside is a huge factor in feeling less of the mommy blues. For example I just found a local gym with a kid zone so I can work out (and work off my stress lol) and she is well taken care of and having fun! A little exercise is so important. You’re doing a great job ! Thank you for the kind comment ❤don’t be a stranger ❤

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  2. When my first daughter was born, I went crazy. It was such a big change going from working part time, going to college and having a life to staying home with a small baby. She was considerably easy then most babies. But I slipped into depression and I had to get a job. And so I did and man did it save me!! I was feeling like I belonged somewhere and like I was being appreciated and fulfilling an emptiness all at once. Then 6 months after my job, I started missing my baby and I quit my job. Financially we couldn’t make it work, so I opened an in home daycare by the time Ava was 1.5 years old. I was also pregnant with our second little girl. It was ok. I could make money and my little girl had a friend or two to play with and that made the days easier. However; by the time the baby was here life got harder. She was a hard, hard baby. I stuck with the daycare a while longer but just recently closed it and I am so happy I did. I wasn’t happy. I was so overwhelmed and crabby towards my own girls. And I thought, they don’t need this. They need someone who is happy, my husband deserves to come home to a happy household and to a wife who is happy. So do what you need to do to be happy, whether its getting a job 1-2 days a week or taking your little girl to an ECFE class just to get out and talk to other moms. BEST of luck. God Bless.

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  3. I would go already crazy if we did not opt for a child care centre for our son who is always on the run! So I kept working as a full time employee at the office in the morning and at home in the afternoon as we decided to keep him there only first half of the day. In few weeks I am back to a home stay mum with the second baby, so if i will find a way out i will let you know.
    Good luck!

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      1. Thank you!I stopped working a week ago because of my maternity leave and so far enjoying it.Doing what I need to or what I want too lol until. ….the newborn comes then we will see.May be suggestion is to spend more time outside rather than at home.New errands,new people and so on

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  4. I also find it tough putting my little girl in with strangers. I used to work in childcare and though I worked with some amazing people, I also met people I wouldn’t have wanted looking after my daughter. Thankfully one of my good friends minds children and takes her for me a couple of times a week. It is really really tough being a stay at home mum. And loneliness is part of it. Hope you are okay x

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    1. That’s awesome you have good friends that watch your children! Picking child care or friends / family to watch the children is really hard, especially for me I’m extremely protective . Also, I’m ok, every once in a while I get the baby blues. But I’m ok now 🙂

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  5. Stay at home mom woes are a normal part of the “job.” Personal experience in this subject, the young years are very difficult. It is so important to find a good baby sitter, get time out by yourself or with a significant other/friend. You NEED it! I also suffer with depression (brought on from post pregnancy). It is such an important reason you need to care for your mental health also. Best wishes 🙂 xx

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